Domestic cats rely on us for their well-being. They’re no better equipped to handle extreme heat than we humans are (and arguably, they’re more poorly equipped, with all that fur). By taking a few small, inexpensive steps to help them stay cool, you’re promoting their health—and that, in turn, promotes your well-being.
Five Other Books to Give Cat Lovers
With holidays fast approaching, I thought it would be a good time to share some of the cat-themed books I love. Of course, I hope you’re giving P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna to the cat lovers in your life. These are some of my favourite other cat books, either to...
The Power of Giving (or, Why Tuna is a Gift Book)
Tuna is a *gift* book for a reason. In addition to providing comfort and support for those who are grieving, I hope it will introduce people to the expansiveness of giving a gift that meets a specific need. Read more…
How to Deepen Your Bond with Your Cat
One of the most heartbreaking truths about adopting a kitten or cat is that we will probably outlive them. Most cats have shorter lifespans than most humans. The silver lining to this knowledge is that we can make the most of the time we have with our cats. What we lack in length of time together, we can make up for in depth of bond…
The Fragility of Life
We are all such fragile beings. From the vast perspective of space, our lives appear shorter than that of a cherry blossom. We live on a planet that spins 1040 miles per hour and hurtles through space at 67 times that rate—yet we share the illusion that we are standing still (or driving, or walking). We really have no idea what this planet, this life, is all about—and the bond we form with companion animals is a portal to that mystery. Continue reading…
Learning to Surf
Grieving a cat—or any kind of grief—is not a one-size-fits-all experience (as though any experience or emotion were?). Some people can't stop sobbing, while others reflect quietly. Some are comforted by hugs and rituals; others need solitude to process...
Grieving a Kitten
If you are grieving the loss of a foster kitten, please read this excellent post by Hannah Shaw (Kitten Lady). If you are grieving a "resident" kitten (one you had planned to live with through their full lifespan)), I hope you'll find comfort in this...
One Breath at a Time
After my cat Hedda died, one of the things that helped me was a practice of focusing on my breath. The way air felt, flowing in through my nostrils, following its path into my lungs, feeling my chest and abdomen expand and then release. It didn't change...
Love Doesn’t Die
Love doesn't die. Love multiplies.
Forgiveness and Self-Forgiveness
"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past." — credited to Lily Tomlin One of the things that makes grieving a pet so difficult is the guilt. Should we have done something sooner? Did we wait too long? Could we have done anything more? What if...
How Grief Makes Us Gentle
"There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." — Leonard Cohen, based on Rumi Grief makes us gentle, because it opens out hearts and stops our minds, if only briefly. It shows us what’s really important in life (love) and renders...
Everybody Grieves
2600 years ago (the story goes), a woman distraught with grief went to the Buddha and begged him to revive her son. He told her to collect a mustard seed from a home that had not been touched by death, and he would indeed bring her son back to life.The...